tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-338188522024-02-03T07:18:45.919-05:00Wheat Among TaresFinding good in the weeds of life...and also a lot of weeds.terrihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12399706958844399216noreply@blogger.comBlogger928125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33818852.post-29321491448619404192013-01-08T15:59:00.000-05:002013-01-08T15:59:36.152-05:00Gun Control ConversationThis is somewhat late to the conversation, most gun arguments having already disappeared from the forefront of people's minds as time passes and the name Adam Lanza vanishes from the headlines. I have various loosely connected thoughts related to several aspects of the gun control conversation, and I simply haven't felt organized enough to express them and I am still not sure that's changed, but I will try. I'll tackle them in sections.<div>
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1. The arming of teachers and school administrators. </div>
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I wonder at people who express the idea that teachers should be armed to prevent school shootings, not only because weapons seems incongruent to academic, nurturing places where our children go, but because it rests on the notion that teachers are somehow just the kind of people we want to protect our children. That somehow they are wise, good people who would know perfectly how to protect their charges. Except, teachers are as much a part of the unwashed masses as anybody else. There are alcoholic teachers, mentally ill teachers, teachers with anger problems, teachers with incredibly poor judgement. Just a few months ago, in the area where I live, a local teacher was arrested for putting a hit out on another teacher.</div>
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Teachers are not saints. And teachers can be just as disgruntled as postal employees. Schools have their own political dramas and scandals and having armed teachers is not a good idea. </div>
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These "bad teachers" aren't the majority, but they exist and in larger numbers than people realize.</div>
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2. Armed policemen at every school. </div>
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This concept blew my mind. It's like something out of a novel....a world where armed policeman are everywhere, even elementary schools. I found the suggestion amusing for its irony. Let's pay thousands upon thousands of policemen for a service that is almost never needed in order to protect lives.....but lets not even consider the idea of raising taxes, or paying for socialized medicine/Obamacare/Medicaid/whatever. It's no different than wanting to cut every social program in existence, but not touch defense spending. It's OK to pay for force, but not quality of life.</div>
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Ach....it just makes me irritable to even contemplate the irony.</div>
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And yet...the county I live in has decided to have armed deputies at each school for the remainder of the year. I work in elementary schools every day, so I see them standing outside every since Sandy Hook happened. They aren't particularly threatening or scary looking to the children, but I can't help but wonder what it says about us. Adults are so fearful that they spend a lot of resources in a relatively useless exercise.</div>
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3. La Pierre blaming violent video games for mass shootings. </div>
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Uh, I think there is probably a large overlap between people playing shooting/violent video games and people who own guns, or are interested in buying guns at least at the younger end of the gun-owning demographic. If the gun lobby starts condemning first-person shooter video games, they will be biting some of the hands that feed them. Also, <a href="http://www.nytimes.com/2012/12/25/business/real-and-virtual-firearms-nurture-marketing-link.html?_r=1&hp=&adxnnl=1&adxnnlx=1356479059-Vou+nfypFRiuRaMybSGR0A&">some video game makers have actually partnered with firearm manufacturers to promote their products</a>.</div>
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4. Fear of the government.</div>
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It has become painfully clear to me that there are people I would otherwise categorize as sane, normal people who have bought into the paranoid fantasy that our government might at any moment become a dictatorship, forcefully taking away all guns and oppressing all opposition forcefully. I think there are fringe elements who create these conspiracy-fueled, fear-laden scenarios and that many simply pick up bits and pieces of it through rubbing shoulders with more of the radical elements out there. The ideas filter through, losing some of their outright craziness and clothing themselves in historic incidents as some sort of proof of their correctness.</div>
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Germany gets brought up a lot. And yet, the 21st century in the US looks nothing like the Germany of World War II.</div>
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I don't know....those are my random thoughts for right now.</div>
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terrihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12399706958844399216noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33818852.post-55760567661945255522012-12-27T17:14:00.001-05:002012-12-27T17:15:04.318-05:00One of the new family toys we purchased this Christmas was an iPad. With two kids needing the computer for research, papers and gaming, it was becoming challenging for all four of us to have the access we needed and wanted with one Mac. I really wanted a laptop but couldn't justify the expense of a macbook right now. The iPad has gone a long way toward relieving the need for a second computer, allowing two people to be browsing the internet, checking e-mail, looking up directions/recipes/game tips at the same time.<br />
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However, I am disappointed with the way it works with Blogger. If I access Blogger through Safari, it is very buggy....constantly freezing up, giving error messages, losing cursor control, etc. I downloaded the Blogger app for iOS and it presents a very minimal word processor with no real features, such as spellcheck, font size, color, italics/blod/ underline...etc.<br />
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A disappointment to be sure. <br />
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One of the things I asked for for Christmas was a wireless keyboard to go with the iPad because typing anything of length on a touchpad is annoying. It seems to be working well and is what I am currently using to type this post.....which I am sure you will all realize is just a rambling post for me to experiment with my new toys....nothing to see here.terrihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12399706958844399216noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33818852.post-17416276330033650112012-12-19T11:33:00.001-05:002012-12-19T11:35:22.534-05:00Ha!<iframe allowfullscreen="allowfullscreen" frameborder="0" height="315" src="http://www.youtube.com/embed/cbtf1oyNg-8" width="560"></iframe><br />
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I drowned my sorrows in World of Warcraft, choosing to waste hours of time on a video game rather than waste hours of time writing and commenting online. They always say that you have to replace one habit with another. I found battling monsters and orcs, except for when I was playing a Horde character, very relaxing and not nearly as mentally exhausting as trying to justify all of my opinions and ideas to people on the Internet.<br />
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Blogging had become too emotionally taxing for me because I really only wanted to say things that were true and honest, at least from my own perspective. As in real life, I don't do well trying to "fake it." I can be socially adept at knowing when to say what and how to read a situation, or people, and saying, or not saying things, at the right time. However, even though I can do that, I find it tiring. It's an effort to go against my usual directness...which is why I am not a social butterfly and choose to have few close relationships. People have to be able to take my directness and I have to be able to feel as if I don't need to constantly censor my thoughts for the sake of others, or to guard my own sense that I haven't offended people whom I have no desire to upset.<br />
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I tend to withdraw when I feel too conflicted about what I am personally thinking and how I imagine others might react to what I am thinking. Considering that blogging is an entirely self-imposed obligation, it made no practical sense to feel so emotionally involved with the reactions that I might provoke in my posts. Why fret about it when there is no need to?<br />
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I'm not sure if I will begin blogging again with any regularity. I'm kind of tiring of WoW, having explored most of the classes, races, and factions of the game, and having a lot of fun along the way. <br />
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I might be ready to re-enter the blogosphere, though it's probably not as fun as playing my rogue.<br />
<br />terrihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12399706958844399216noreply@blogger.com11tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33818852.post-35432340280091171732012-12-16T15:01:00.000-05:002012-12-16T15:01:06.211-05:00Bad ArgumentThe worst argument which I have heard about guns and mass shootings in the the aftermath of this last crisis: "Shootings happen more frequently in gun free zones, therefore we need to eliminate gun free zones and allow gun owners to carry their guns anywhere they please as a deterrent."<br />
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Correlation is not causation.<br />
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Intentional shootings happen in these gun-free zones because these zones are heavily populated venues such as schools, malls, theaters, or parks, which makes them prime locations for people intending to harm as many people as possible in a short period of time. Also, considering that many of these shooters wind up ending their murderous sprees by shooting themselves, it hardly seems likely that they intentionally choose places where they think people will be unarmed. They are entering a quick blaze towards their own deaths. They are unconcerned about the outcome or possibility of facing other armed people. And, the fact that they often are wearing bullet-proof vests implies that they sense they will be shot at by somebody, whether it is a security officer or a police officer.<br />
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Their actions give no indication that they have spent any time pondering, or that they care about, whether a venue is officially labeled "gun-free".<br />
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My comments have nothing to do with whether gun control laws should be stricter, or not, but just to point out the absurdity of that particular argument. No one should be able to say those things with a straight face, or be taken seriously when making such an argument.<br />
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DH was curious about what I thought of it. After watching all 8 minutes and 23 seconds, my only reply was, "He's a jerk. No wonder his kid wrote all of that stuff about him."<br />
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That is apparently the opposite reaction that most people have had to the video. The majority of comments seem to egg him on and describe what he did as "tough love" and standing up to teenagers.<br />
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I don't get that reaction at all. From my perspective, it seems like an immature attempt at one-upmanship aimed at publicly humiliating his daughter for having normal, teenage feelings.<br />
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Think about what happened. A 15 year-old girl ranted about her parents and chores, not publicly, but privately to her friends.<br />
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What a shocker. Next thing you know she'll be talking about boys, and sex, and growing up and moving out, and how out-of-touch teachers are, and how boring church and school are, and how when she grows up she'll never be like so and so....etc. etc.<br />
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This is why parents should never go snooping through children's diaries/journals. You'll most likely find some unpleasant things written about you in there. That's what diaries and journals and stupid posts to your friends on facebook are for. If a person really wanted to humiliate and hurt you, they would say those things to your face, not in a private venue that you were never meant to see.<br />
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Sometimes, I think about how I thought about my parents growing up, especially during my teenage and young adult years. I always loved them because they were my parents, but I frequently did not like them and said things about them that I'm sure they would have found hurtful. I was always honest and direct with them when I was upset with them, specifically my mother. She always knew how I felt, even though I didn't purposely try to be hurtful in the way I expressed my frustration with her.<br />
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Still, I remember things I said, or thought, about her that were much more extreme than what I actually said to her in person because even though she upset me, I wouldn't purposely want to humiliate her.<br />
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I soberly consider that as I watch my children grow, knowing that at some point they might be writing snide facebook comments about me, or rolling their eyes to their friends while I am talking to them on the phone, or complaining about rules, standards, expectations that I have and how I "just don't get it".<br />
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And even though that will assuredly happen, just as surely as the sun will rise each morning, I will remember being a teenager and hopefully cut them some slack, even as I will probably be inwardly hurt.<br />
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That's is what being a mature, adult parent is about. Attempting to understand and communicate with your children, rather than trying to bully them with snide comments, sarcastic tones, and over-the-top punishments is probably more effective.<br />
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In general, I think that parents can be too hard on themselves, expecting more than is humanly possible, regretting every little mistake.<br />
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On the other hand, I see what this father has done, in a very self-satisfied manner, as one of those parenting mistakes that is going to have a very long life in this girl's memory, and not in a positive way. She's learned, not that she should never say anything bad about her parents, but that if she does something her father doesn't like, there will be retribution. That he will react on the basis of his own feelings of being hurt rather than on the basis of what would be good for a healthy relationship with his daughter.terrihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12399706958844399216noreply@blogger.com7tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33818852.post-20326361144361557192012-02-14T15:31:00.000-05:002012-02-14T15:31:01.533-05:00Random Book RecommendationI am thoroughly enjoying <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Peter_S._Beagle">Peter S. Beagle's</a> collection of short stories, <i><a href="http://www.amazon.com/We-Never-Talk-About-Brother/dp/189239183X">We Never Talk About My Brothe</a>r</i>.<br />
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I picked it up on a lark at the library, unfamiliar with his work, and found a nice gem. I'm halfway through it and every story so far has been wonderfully written, engaging and satisfying.<br />
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If you're looking for pure enjoyability, in a mild sci-fi/fantasy vein, try it out.terrihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12399706958844399216noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33818852.post-84333522691824524322012-02-10T22:21:00.001-05:002012-02-10T22:21:57.710-05:00The Intuitive was one of two children to advance from his school's science fair, in the 4th grade, to the regional county science fair. We spent one day this week among a display of at least 1,000 science projects. The Intuitive had to stand alone in a sea of cardboard displays with only fellow participants for company as the science fair judges made their way to each display and had the students present their project and answer questions. No teachers or parents allowed.<br />
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We sat in bleachers with hundreds, maybe thousands of other parents waiting until his grade and science category were officially dismissed for the day. We saw him making his way to us in a crowd of other dressed-up fourth graders and joined him halfway down the aisle. <br />
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"How did it go?"<br />
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"OK, I guess. I probably won't win anything. The judges only spoke to me once."<br />
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"Well, you never know. At least you did your best. Did you stand up when they approached you?"<br />
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"Yes, mom."<br />
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"Did you answer all of their questions?"<br />
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"Yes, mom."<br />
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"Were you friendly?"<br />
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"Yes, mom."<br />
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I had to pester him. It is my motherly duty, after all.<br />
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The next day we attended the awards ceremony, not knowing what to expect. When the announcers got to The Intuitive's category he was thrilled to hear that he qualified for an "Excellent" award, which seemed to be somewhere between the Outstanding category and Superior, with Superior being the highest. They give out many of these 1st, 2nd and 3rd place awards because the sheer volume of participants makes it difficult to have just one 1st, 2nd, and 3rd place winner, but not everyone gets them, so The Intuitive was happy to get another nod for his project.<br />
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He went to the ceremony expecting a mere participation ribbon and came home with a medal. He was positively radiant with happiness, especially because he was utterly taken by surprise when he had simply won at his school's science fair to begin with.<br />
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I was happy for him in the way that parents are happy when they see their kids feel affirmed and valued and content with themselves after working hard on something.terrihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12399706958844399216noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33818852.post-40572698622239698422012-02-10T08:54:00.003-05:002012-02-10T21:54:00.483-05:00Santorum Word SaladWhat the hell is Santorum talking about?<br />
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What are these mysterious emotions that he's talking about? At first it seemed like he was implying that women might be too scared or emotional to carry out a mission, but then he starts talking about men and camaraderie and these things already happening and I was thrown off. Usually the things coming into the spotlight regarding men and camaraderie in the face of war revolve around groups of soldiers doing bad things together, like urinating on bodies, or taking trophies of the war, or being overly aggressive and killing non-combatants.<br />
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I think he is trying so hard not to say what he really thinks, that women are not fit for combat, that he is wandering all over the place spewing non-sensical word salad.<br />
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A Santorum candidacy would push me even further away from the Republican party. He is a culture warrior through and through. There isn't a single issue that he speaks about that isn't directly tied to a religious position he has or is influenced by. <br />
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No objectivity. No openness to any area of policy that doesn't already line up with his predetermined view of the world.<br />
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Santorum <a href="http://www.washingtonpost.com/politics/santorums-quotes-on-the-role-of-women/2012/02/10/gIQABbMu4Q_story.html">clarified his remarks about women in combat</a>, saying that he was referring to the emotions that men would have while working with women:<br />
<blockquote class="tr_bq"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Georgia, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px;">“I was talking about men’s emotional issues; not women. I mean, there’s a lot of issues. That’s just one of them. So my concern is being in combat in that situation instead of being focused on the mission, they may be more concerned with protecting someone who may be in a vulnerable position, a woman in a vulnerable position.”</span></blockquote>Well, it wasn't just my imagination that Santorum wasn't making much sense. Apparently, he <i>was</i> wandering all over the place in that first clip.<br />
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The problem with what Santorum says here is that it is based in his own view of gender roles. He naturally assumes that because he believes women need to be protected, and that men are responsible for protecting them, that every other man feels the same way.<br />
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It is self-evidently obvious to him.<br />
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Personally, I think it's bunk. If you're in the middle of an intense battle, you're not going to be thinking about gender roles. You're going to be thinking about survival, plain and simple. And...soldiers are already trained to look out for each other and work as a team, "protecting" each other.<br />
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The women who choose to enlist and want to be closer to combat are women who are probably naturally inclined to do just that. They aren't garden-party, creative-memory-making, trophy wife women who are being forced into a life they aren't suited for and don't want. They don't need to be protected any more than any soldier needs to be protected.terrihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12399706958844399216noreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33818852.post-44346944776496251432012-02-01T10:37:00.001-05:002012-02-01T10:38:51.313-05:00Withholding Approval and Same Sex MarriageI've been over at AVI's commenting on a post of his about <a href="http://assistantvillageidiot.blogspot.com/2012/01/same-sex-marriage.html">Same Sex Marriage</a>.<br />
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A couple of people made the point that SSM is about the gay community wanting validation and affirmation more than it is about obtaining specific marital rights.<br />
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I don't think that's a necessarily incorrect assessment. And, I think withholding that validation is a serious motive for opponents to gay marriage, who are comfortable tolerating gay people and acknowledging their existence, but don't want to be required to put their stamp of approval on gay relationships, elevating the status of gay relationships to those of heterosexual relationships. <br />
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Full disclosure. I don't know how comfortable I am, personally, with Same Sex Marriage. That's to say, while I don't harbor ill will towards homosexuals, I can also say that I have a hard time understanding homosexuality simply because I can't identify with it personally. I don't know or understand what it would be like to be attracted to the same sex, and because of that I can't un-self-consciously accept it in the same way that I would any other straight relationship. I actually have to consciously work on not making value judgements.<br />
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Those statements are not meant to be used as ammunition against me. I am merely trying to be honest about the thought process I have. Because I don't identify with or understand homosexuality in the same way that I understand heterosexuality....I am limited in my abilities to be as instinctively OK with it as I would be with other relationships. As such, I have to take what gay people say about themselves and their relationships at face value to some extent. If most of them feel as if this is something they were born with or something they have no power to change, then I have to accept that.<br />
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I have no basis to argue otherwise.<br />
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How valuable is this validation of SSM and what do opponents gain by not giving it?<br />
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For the gay population, I think the validation is extremely valuable. Having governmental recognition of SSM would allow them to feel accepted and as if their relationships were equal to heterosexual marriages and all that it entails. Living in a society that doesn't purposely and consciously exclude you and that doesn't merely tolerate you is definitely more appealing and freeing than living in a society in which you feel slighted.<br />
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Is it the government's responsibility to make sure that everyone feel more accepted and free? Is the government supposed to make us feel warm and fuzzy about all of our choices? Is the government supposed to be a hippie love-in organization making sure that everyone gets a hug and a flower in their hair?<br />
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Well....not exactly. However, the government isn't a separate entity that operates outside and independent of society. It is a representation of society and serves to enact laws that society considers just and good. Those laws are adjusted and added to as society adjusts and adds to its conception of "just" and "good".<br />
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Validating SSM is a way of declaring that society thinks it is more just and good to honor consensual, binding, relational agreements between two gay people than it is to not honor those agreements. While it is about making homosexuals feel openly accepted and equal, it is also about honoring the wills of individuals to live peacefully, according to their own consciences, without government impediments, a principle which is entirely American.<br />
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Very conservative Christians will never accept homosexuals in any way. The only option in their eyes is a fundamental denial of same sex attraction. Homosexuals are expected to repent and live as heterosexuals. The problem is that after many years of this approach, it doesn't seem widely viable or workable. <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ex-gay_movement">Some of the founders of various ex-gay movements, after many years of working in those movements, have given up on the idea of thinking it's even possible to be "ex-gay"</a>.<br />
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Conservative Christians will characterize these people as giving up on God, or the faith, or surrendering to the devil and their lusts.<br />
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On the other hand, if someone so desperately wants not to be gay, founds an organization for ex-gays, and dedicates themselves to that movement for many years, and after all that discovers that their life's work hasn't been very effective and openly admits it...then I think Christians need to listen to what they have to say.<br />
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The average evangelical christian has historically taken the path of "loving the sinner, hating the sin" when it comes to homosexuality. I once thought this was a workable spiritual solution; tell homosexuals that we love them and think God loves them, but that their actions are not pleasing to God and we can't condone their behavior. In theory, the idea is that acting on homosexual desires is equivalent to acting on heterosexual desires outside of marriage. People make mistakes. God offers forgiveness. We simply can't condone the mistakes.<br />
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The problem is that it never really works that way in evangelical churches. No matter how open and loving an evangelical church can be, or how insistent that homosexuals are welcome to attend, they are not treated in the same way that heterosexuals are because an attraction to the same sex is not viewed equivalently to an attraction to the opposite sex, in the eyes of the church. Attraction to the opposite sex is seen as inherently natural and if heterosexuals stray then it is a matter of right desire, wrong timing or wrong relationship. With homosexuals there is never a right time, place, or relationship to express their sexual orientation.<br />
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What remains is the option of lifelong celibacy in an evangelical church. However, even if an openly gay person chooses to be celibate, there is always a lingering suspicion towards them and they will most likely not be given any visible leadership positions within the church.<br />
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Withholding approval/validation effectively keeps acknowledged homosexuals out of evangelical churches. It's not hard to see why. If desires that you have always had, desires that you can't get rid of, and desires that are an integral part of the framework of your self-conception are considered twisted and unnatural, even if you don't act on them, it would be difficult to feel loved, accepted and part of that community.<br />
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When a person latches onto the idea of withholding validation or approval from someone as a means of influencing them, they are operating on several assumptions.<br />
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Assumption #1 --They are in a superior position. Validation is theirs to give or withhold by fiat and natural authority.<br />
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Assumption #2--Their purposeful withholding of validation will influence the subject of it to submit and agree to the authority's position and discourage them from the subject's own position<br />
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Assumption #3--Giving validation to someone who lives and believes differently than they do is as bad as living and believing in the same way as that person. Validation=participation.<br />
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#1 is hard for anyone to prove. Justifying hierarchies and inherent authority is incredibly difficult when people begin to critically examine that hierarchy and the basis for the authority given to it.<br />
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#2 isn't effective. When you don't validate people they typically don't change, they simply continue being the way they are in a different location.<br />
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#3 Validation is <i>not</i> equal to participation. <br />
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I may write more about this when time permits.terrihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12399706958844399216noreply@blogger.com8tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33818852.post-9594998707882492592012-01-31T10:44:00.002-05:002012-01-31T10:46:11.626-05:00Analysis on Florida<object classid="clsid:D27CDB6E-AE6D-11cf-96B8-444553540000" codebase="http://download.macromedia.com/pub/shockwave/cabs/flash/swflash.cab#version=10,0,0,0" height="245" id="msnbc4a6caf" width="420"><param name="movie" value="http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/32545640" /><param name="FlashVars" value="launch=46192782&width=420&height=245" /><param name="allowScriptAccess" value="always" /><param name="allowFullScreen" value="true" />This is pretty much spot-on analysis of Florida: <param name="wmode" value="transparent" /><embed name="msnbc4a6caf" src="http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/32545640" width="420" height="245" FlashVars="launch=46192782&width=420&height=245" allowscriptaccess="always" allowFullScreen="true" wmode="transparent" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" pluginspage="http://www.adobe.com/shockwave/download/download.cgi?P1_Prod_Version=ShockwaveFlash"></embed></object><br />
<div style="background: transparent; color: #999999; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 11px; margin-top: 5px; text-align: center; width: 420px;">Visit msnbc.com for <a href="http://www.msnbc.msn.com/" style="border-bottom: 1px dotted #999 !important; color: #5799DB !important; font-weight: normal !important; height: 13px; text-decoration: none !important;">breaking news</a>, <a href="http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/3032507" style="border-bottom: 1px dotted #999 !important; color: #5799DB !important; font-weight: normal !important; height: 13px; text-decoration: none !important;">world news</a>, and <a href="http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/3032072" style="border-bottom: 1px dotted #999 !important; color: #5799DB !important; font-weight: normal !important; height: 13px; text-decoration: none !important;">news about the economy</a></div><br />
And then there was <a href="http://religion.blogs.cnn.com/2012/01/28/florida-evangelicals-a-different-breed-of-voter-than-brethren-in-iowa-south-carolina/">this article about Florida evangelicals</a> which is also pretty accurate.<br />
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And <a href="http://www.cnn.com/2012/01/30/opinion/avlon-florida-myths/index.html">another article about debunking myths about Florida voters</a>.<br />
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Florida is an incredibly diverse state that can't be pinned down. Even its ethnic groups have sub-groups. Hispanic/Latino might mean Cuban, Puerto Rican, Mexican, or a number of nationalities from Central and South America.....and those groups often do not share political or cultural commonalities.<br />
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The same goes for African Americans. In Florida that term could represent people from Jamaica, first and second generation Africans, people from Haiti, Trinidad, and the Virgin Islands as well as the more traditional conception of "African American". The term itself is outdated and not entirely accurate here.<br />
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There is a large population of bi-racial and multi-racial people and those combinations may be black/white, hispanic/ white, black/hispanic, white/asian, black/asian, bi-racial/bi-racial.<br />
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I believe this is why Florida is so important during major elections, there is literally no portion of the American population that isn't represented here....not only in certain pockets, but throughout the state.<br />
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And that racial diversity is mirrored in religious diversity and age diversity in as complex a manner.<br />
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It's like a mini United States here.terrihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12399706958844399216noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33818852.post-31762117354035117762012-01-31T08:22:00.001-05:002012-01-31T08:25:56.219-05:00Primary DaySo, as a registered Republican, I get to vote in Florida's primary today. Romney, Newt, Paul or Santorum. <br />
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Those are my choices.<br />
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I will probably wind up voting for Romney, not because I love him as a candidate, but because I dislike him the least....or at least consider his flaws less repugnant than the flaws of the other candidates.<br />
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I told my husband that I think this will be my last election as a registered Republican. Throughout the long run-up to today, I spent time looking over the candidates and the positions they hold on various issues. What I discovered was that there wasn't a single one with whom I agreed on more than one issue. I like Ron Paul's bluntness about the war and his desire to avoid it.....but he has a lot of other ideas that are a bit crazy and the racist newsletters from his past make it impossible for me to vote for him. <br />
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Santorum has so much of his religious belief tied into his politics that I don't consider him an option. Going to his site and reading through his "issues" articles is like listening to the Family Research Council. Lots of bluff and bluster and ranting against the evil powers in the universe, but not many practical ideas about running the country.<br />
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Newt....well let's just say that I wouldn't trust Newt in any position. Besides his personal scandals, which could be argued to be irrelevant, the transparency with which he manipulates and speaks is off-putting. The constant reliance on invoking Reagan, calling the opposition "elites", and his downright outrageous claims about moon bases in 8 years is so over the top....I don't understand how anyone could really take him seriously.<br />
<blockquote>"I declare that by the end of my second term that we will have light-speed space-ships and they'll be made in America!</blockquote><blockquote>I declare that by the end of my second term that there will be a chicken in every pot and a personal jet pack for every American!</blockquote><blockquote>I declare that by the end of my second term that we will be able to download our consciousness into biologically-based robots and live forever! </blockquote><blockquote>I will accomplish all of this because I am a man of BIG ideas!"</blockquote><br />
Well...you get the idea.<br />
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sigh.<br />
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I think this will be my last year as a registered Republican. While I can't see myself registering as a Democrat, I simply can no longer find a reason to remain Republican. I haven't seen a candidate in the last several years that I could get behind without holding my nose. It's time to face facts. As the Republican party now stands, it's clear that I am not a Republican any longer.<br />
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The truest representation of my voting preferences would be to register as an Independent, which, in Florida, means no longer being able to vote in primary elections. The upside is that maybe it will mean that we will receive fewer robo-calls during the week before primaries and general elections.terrihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12399706958844399216noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33818852.post-21951398591793602302012-01-29T11:09:00.000-05:002012-01-29T11:09:37.897-05:00Old Soul?Heh.<br />
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Google is doing its job keeping track of everything you and I do in its systems.<br />
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You can check out what Google thinks of your demographics<a href="https://www.google.com/settings/ads/onweb/?hl=en-GB&sig=ACi0TChx2uPbpMNIaOOMn_0GBvQ3YbWC-mpyeMeFU_K5KDBs0uZyLko9b6uSwF9TXtAee-VfdDgMnM8Nr2tSk-73XOVMEYsFXabmgYxLztYxj7pV1Xp8wW_Op9LRMI0kNZfij4LZuStFjtRXaCfPqg3lq1ZzDhIkDM-PmOQFRmwyPYV3pAuomOFBksRsIJGWZ235S5VgQaYM&hl=en-GB"> here</a>.<br />
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Google seems to think I am a 65+ year old man.<br />
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I'm speechless.terrihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12399706958844399216noreply@blogger.com7tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33818852.post-87629427235061753512012-01-20T10:48:00.008-05:002012-01-20T10:58:16.901-05:00Google as Revealer of Unpleasant TruthsOne of the things keeping me busy lately is soccer season.<br />
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This is the second year we have had the boys in soccer. They enjoy it. We enjoy it. It's a good way to spend time together as a family.<br />
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The fly in the ointment for me, this year, has been The Rationalist's U-12 coach. I have cultivated a general eye-rolling feeling towards him for several reasons, the least of which is related to his actual coaching. When we met him, I thought that he seemed familiar to me, especially once he mentioned he was a youth minister. Though I couldn't specifically place him, I had the sense that we must have glancingly met him at some point in the 12 years that we have lived here.<br />
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Curious, I googled him when I got home and realized that we had visited a church he was starting many years ago. We had visited just one time, so I doubt that he would have any remembrance of us as a part of a large group of people, but I remembered him because we gave him our attention for one full Sunday morning, even if it had been 6 years ago.<br />
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Googling someone, in some cases, can provide a key to their personality. It's not an exact science, but for those who have a heavy web presence, it can pretty much lay out their lives--good, bad, and curious--in a few seconds.<br />
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What I found on the coach was evidence of many start-ups of various churches, stints as a youth minister at various churches, several career websites where he hyped his motivational speaking skills and mentions of playing for the NFL. <br />
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Mixed in with that were a couple of links with questions about whether this man had ever actually played with the Dallas Cowboys. Apparently, someone didn't believe his resume and wanted to know more about him from an expert on all things Cowboy-related. <br />
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What came out on the website is that there was no mention of his name on any NFL roster at any time, for any game with that team. As far as the Dallas Cowboys were concerned, this man didn't exist. Searching a little bit further, the expert on the website found only one reference to him. Apparently, he had tried out for the Cowboys, had initially been signed as a place kicker, but then was dropped/waived after a couple of months. However, he never played a single game and it is unclear how much of those 3 months were actually spent with the team because he was signed in April and waived in July, presumably before the pre-season and definitely before the actual season which started on 9/13/87.<br />
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I had stumbled across an unsettling fact. The coach was an exaggerator, possibly a liar, depending on how you looked at it.<br />
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I wasn't sure what to think about the whole thing. It seemed too incredible to me to think that this man would blatantly misrepresent himself, but that is exactly what he did.<br />
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The coach had advocated we follow him on facebook for soccer updates and there was no mention of the NFL on his info/work page. Several of the defunct churches' websites that mentioned him didn't mention it either. Maybe, I thought, this was a brief slip-up by him. Maybe it was a misunderstanding by someone in the past, thinking he was claiming to have played as opposed to briefly being signed to the Cowboys.<br />
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Further googling turned up a couple of mentions of the pastor/coach and the NFL in personal blogs of people who were working with him or introducing him as a guest speaker. The term "former NFL player" was used as a credential for appealing to youth. Still, these mentions were several years old and very brief, no more than a sentence or two, not detailed elaborations. But now, instead of just finding references to the Dallas Cowboys, I was finding references to the New York Jets also.<br />
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Disturbed, I decided to do my own fact-checking, going to official NFL sites and the official Dallas Cowboys site and New York Jets site, running various searches to try and turn up any overlooked information, searching by year, name, position, etc. I found no mention of him anywhere on any of the official team rosters maintained by any NFL organizations.<br />
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</div>It bugged me, but wanting to be charitable and give the benefit of the doubt, I pushed it aside thinking it was probably in the past, a minor case of braggadocio that had flared up and burnt itself out rather quickly.....until it wasn't anymore.<br />
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Not long after the soccer season started, the coach decided to give a pep talk about getting enough sleep, eating the right things, and drinking enough fluids the day before the game. It was at this point that he mentioned this was the advice given to him when played in the NFL.<br />
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A couple of kids gasped and exclaimed excitedly, "You played in the NFL?"<br />
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"Yeah. I sure did," he said.<br />
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"What team?" they asked.<br />
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"I played for the Cowboys and the New York Jets," he said confidently.<br />
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"Wow!" they said.<br />
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I stood there, silently thinking despicable thoughts.<br />
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Misunderstanding? No. <br />
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Exaggeration? Possibly able to be construed as such. <br />
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Outright Lie? In my book, yes.<br />
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Google had laid bare this man's lie before me. I knew something about him that no one else on that soccer field knew at that moment, that he was lying to our kids' faces and to ours.<br />
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Practice was over. We went home and I stewed, wondering how this man could so casually represent himself the way that he did...the same man who markets himself as a motivational speaker to teens in order to teach them not to smoke, drink or have sex before marriage...the same man whose facebook page was filled with mini-sermons about serving God.<br />
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ugh.<br />
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The awkwardness of knowing more about a person than I normally would, without them even realizing it, is pervasive. There's no way to reveal what I know without seeming creepy and stalker-ish as if I spend all my time researching the personal lives of those around me. And, there's no real point in revealing what I know because while it reflects very poorly on this man's character and personality it has absolutely zero to do with his soccer coaching. It's something he says to boost his own self-image and give him more prestige in the eyes of others, but after that brief moment it recedes in relevance.<br />
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Still, it annoys me. It is hard to listen to him speak without second-guessing everything he says as exaggeration and self-promotion.terrihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12399706958844399216noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33818852.post-22745785998409217482012-01-18T12:50:00.000-05:002012-01-18T12:50:31.544-05:00ShiftI've been incognito for quite some time. Time and again I would consider blogging, or putting my thoughts down on numerous subjects...and yet....shifting inside of me a growing resistance to all things blog-related would assert itself, saying "No...not right now."<br />
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So...I would let the days slip by, busy with real life and chores and Christmas and working on the house, all the while considering the possibility of simply shutting things down, or maybe restarting elsewhere.<br />
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I'm not sure where I'm headed. The internal shift I feel is one that I have had before in my life at particular moments when I suddenly change and go in a new direction. <br />
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A sudden revelation. An epiphany. A realization. An acceptance of something unpredicted.<br />
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I'm not sure which one of those things will come from the shift, or if none of them lay beneath the change working in me. <br />
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I'll let you know when I know.terrihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12399706958844399216noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33818852.post-24693498305924374982011-11-09T16:42:00.000-05:002011-11-09T16:42:49.371-05:00This whole<a href="http://www.cbsnews.com/8301-400_162-57321343/paterno-retiring-amid-child-abuse-tragedy/"> Penn State sexual abuse story</a> has my stomach churning as I try to understand how multiple men, both in leadership positions and non-leadership positions, could turn a blind eye to a child's rape.<br />
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It is especially gut-wrenching for me because the age of the boys who were raped is close to the age of my own two boys, and the association of knowing my boys and the unbidden imagination of what I would do if anyone ever harmed them in this way fills me with rage and disgust and makes my heart heavy for the boys who had no one to protect them.<br />
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I honestly don't know how any of these men live with themselves. How do you sleep at night knowing that this horrendous crime was not reported to the police and that the perpetrator is likely still raping children?<br />
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How can people disassociate from responsibility and justice so completely?terrihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12399706958844399216noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33818852.post-53928315692191088832011-10-31T08:24:00.002-04:002011-10-31T08:28:05.363-04:00Musical Monday<iframe allowfullscreen="" frameborder="0" height="315" src="http://www.youtube.com/embed/LLoyNxjhTzc" width="560"></iframe><br />
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If that was too mellow and melancholy to start your Monday, here's another from Adele....with a little more of her personality showing through at the beginning.<br />
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<iframe allowfullscreen="" frameborder="0" height="315" src="http://www.youtube.com/embed/os5z7XZPXys" width="560"></iframe>terrihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12399706958844399216noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33818852.post-11147281127528866192011-10-27T10:13:00.009-04:002011-10-27T11:01:12.898-04:00What Influences the Influencers?Simultaneous with my reading of <i>Confessions</i>, I wandered off somewhere through hyperlinks and began reading through other early Christian writings. This happens to me frequently. I begin reading one thing which makes an obscure reference to something else, which leads me to look up that piece of writing, which in turn references another text etc., etc. Before I know it I'm chasing rabbit trails...possibly tangential rabbit trails, but still slightly off of my original path.<br />
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During this frantic, hopping process, I came across <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/First_Epistle_of_Clement">1 Clement</a>, an early Christian epistle believed to be written around the turn of the first century by <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pope_Clement_I">Pope Clement 1</a>. You can read the text, in full, <a href="http://www.earlychristianwritings.com/text/1clement-roberts.html">here</a>.<br />
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For the most part it's what you would expect from a church leader writing to a congregation of believers, exhortation, warning, encouragement, and the reiteration of doctrine and practices and the faithfulness of the biblical characters. In the middle of all this, though, there is this nugget:<br />
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<blockquote><i>CHAPTER 25 -- THE PHOENIX AN EMBLEM OF OUR RESURRECTION.<br />
Let us consider that wonderful sign [of the resurrection] which takes place in Eastern lands, that is, in Arabia and the countries round about. There is a certain bird which is called a phoenix. This is the only one of its kind, and lives five hundred years. And when the time of its dissolution draws near that it must die, it builds itself a nest of frankincense, and myrrh, and other spices, into which, when the time is fulfilled, it enters and dies. But as the flesh decays a certain kind of worm is produced, which, being nourished by the juices of the dead bird, brings forth feathers. Then, when it has acquired strength, it takes up that nest in which are the bones of its parent, and bearing these it passes from the land of Arabia into Egypt, to the city called Heliopolis. And, in open day, flying in the sight of all men, it places them on the altar of the sun, and having done this, hastens back to its former abode. The priests then inspect the registers of the dates, and find that it has returned exactly as the five hundredth year was completed.</i></blockquote><blockquote><i>CHAPTER 26 -- WE SHALL RISE AGAIN, THEN, AS THE SCRIPTURE ALSO TESTIFIES.<br />
Do we then deem it any great and wonderful thing for the Maker of all things to raise up again those who have piously served Him in the assurance of a good faith, when even by a bird He shows us the mightiness of His power to fulfil His promise? For [the Scripture] says in a certain place, "You shall raise me up, and I shall confess to You;" and again, "I laid down, and slept; I awaked, because You are with me;" and again, Job says, "you shall raise up this flesh of mine, which has suffered all these things."</i></blockquote>I was not expecting an early Christian leader to use the phoenix as a proof of God's resurrection power. Clement speaks about the bird as a real, factual, natural example of resurrection. It's intriguing because it is so removed from the Gospel accounts, or even Paul's description of resurrection. Instead of directly appealing to the Resurrection story, or Paul's assurances that 500 people witnessed a resurrected Jesus, Clement is using examples in nature as proofs for the resurrection of Christ and resurrection in general. He discusses the renewal of the sun each day, or the growth of plants from "dead" seeds and ultimately goes on to this final example with the phoenix.<br />
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First, it's interesting to note that Clement doesn't reference the miraculous in any way. He's writing to the Corinthians, a congregation with whom Paul spends a lot of time discussing tongues and healings and miraculous powers. Yet, now, there is no whiff of the supernatural in this letter. The transition is being made from a belief system based on experiential, emotive, supernatural events to a belief system that is moving towards an authoritative, literature-based system. The text's subtle feel places it in a different category than Paul's writings.<br />
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I'm not sure what it means. It seems somewhat removed from the immediacy of the apostles even though Clement supposedly was alive when some of the apostles were still alive and is claimed to have been installed by Peter himself, though, as always, there is much uncertainty when it comes to dates and succession during this time period.<br />
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Second, it's always disappointing to come across these bizarre examples or reasoning in the founders of the Christian faith. Intellectually, I know that Clement believed that phoenixes were real and he was probably not strange in doing so and it shouldn't bother me. However, it does make the point that many of Christianity's founders were incredibly credulous, maybe no more so than the average person in their culture, but still.....the implications further erode my confidence.<br />
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I experienced a similar deflation when reading St. Augustine's <i>Confessions</i>. One of the many pivotal moments he writes about concerns <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Anthony_the_Great">St. Anthony</a> and the book <i><a href="http://www.fordham.edu/halsall/basis/vita-antony.asp">Life of Anthony</a>,</i> which <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Athanasius_of_Alexandria">Athanasius</a> wrote. He and his companions are set on fire by the book and its tales of Anthony's battles with demons and the strong, radical faith which caused Anthony to seek a solitary existence in the desert.<br />
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Off I went to read Life of Anthony in order to get a better understanding of what was so moving for Augustine and his friends. What I read sounded like the ravings of a schizophrenic experiencing hallucinations. Demons spontaneously appear to Anthony and torment him, not only mentally, but also physically. It's one extreme episode after another.<br />
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Discovering this text as a seed of inspiration for Augustine is disturbing. What does it say about his mental state? About what motivates him? About the credulity with which he accepts these tales?<br />
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When you find that those who hold such prominent influence over the shaping of Christianity have faulty premises and facts at the inception of their faith, how do you walk with them further down the path and take what they say with unpolluted trust?<br />
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Reading the early writings has become an act of torture for me. I'm always finding stuff that I wish wasn't there, and I'm frequently appalled at the influences which guide the influential.terrihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12399706958844399216noreply@blogger.com9tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33818852.post-39653526141723207732011-10-26T11:27:00.002-04:002011-10-26T11:39:05.010-04:00Was Augustine Bi-Sexual?, The ConclusionProbably.<br />
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What does it matter?<br />
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It doesn't, depending on what a person thinks of the implications. Because Augustine converted with a simultaneous vow of celibacy, all of his sexual activities are strictly pre-conversion. It would be hard for GLBT groups to use him as much of a poster boy for their causes considering he in no way condones his own sexuality, or hardly anyone's sexuality for that matter. In Augustine's eyes, sex is worldly, temporal and usually lustful, so any attempt at expressing acceptance of any kind of pleasurable sexuality is cut off before it even begins.<br />
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For some Christian groups, it might be unsettling to imagine their patron saint engaging in sexual acts with other men/boys and I would think many would resist any idea speculating about Augustine's bi-sexualty.<br />
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On the other hand, I can imagine that some Christian groups would gladly take Augustine as the prime example of an "ex-gay/ex-bi" person whose behavior was changed by belief in and commitment to the Christian God.<br />
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Augustine could be co-opted by either side of the divide.terrihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12399706958844399216noreply@blogger.com14tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33818852.post-61264346259580732272011-10-26T11:17:00.002-04:002011-10-26T11:29:45.088-04:00Was Augustine Bi-Sexual?, Part 3I have mostly finished <i>Confessions</i>, and as of yet, haven't been swayed to think that Augustine was solely heterosexual. My reading of him is that early in his youth, upon moving to Carthage, he probably was involved in same-sex sexual relationships. He doesn't say it outright, which I don't perceive as unusual. Even when discussing his relationship with his mistress he doesn't go into much detail. He is much more descriptive about his feelings and perceptions of guilt rather than being descriptive about specific acts.<br />
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I think the strongest case for Augustine's early bi-sexuality still remains in carefully reading how he writes about women, in general, and, specifically, his most significant heterosexual relationship. I don't see how the passages I quoted in the original <a href="http://wheatamongtares.blogspot.com/2011/10/was-saint-augustine-bi-sexual.html">post</a> could even remotely be applied to women by Augustine. Augustine simply doesn't describe his relationships with women, on the few occasions he mentions them, with any sense of love, or friendship, or emotional depth. All of these emotions he expresses quite freely towards his male friends. <br />
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I'm not saying that every male relationship that Augustine had was a sexual relationship. I'd venture that most weren't and that any affairs that he had were well in his youth.<br />
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This lack of feeling expressed towards women, combined with the fact that Carthage seemed to be known as tolerant place for homosexuality, and that Augustine directly connects his adventures to the city of Carthage, I find compelling.<br />
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After my first read-through of <i>Confessions</i>, I went back and read the Introduction. I don't like to read Introductions ahead of time because I find they color my reading experience. In the Introduction of the the translation of <i>Confessions</i> which I am reading, I found this:<br />
<blockquote class="tr_bq"><i>There was however, a snag to baptism. Anyone who took it seriously knew that post-baptismal sins were unforgivable, if they were big ones, although most pre-baptismal sins would be wiped out by baptism itself. There was then room for calculation. If you delayed baptism and avoided the most unpardonable sins like murder (some writers included adultery) you could be baptized in old age and be destined for heaven in the life to come. If you were baptized too soon, you might damn yourself to hell by sinning badly later. Those who thought hard could see the attractions of remaining a "catechumen": Monica saw them and because she suspected that her son might sow wild oats and be a promiscuous young man, she preferred to keep him as a catechumen. (pp xix, The Confessions, translated by Philip Burton)</i></blockquote>I found this intriguing because when Augustine writes about the death of his close, male friend, he mentions that after he fell sick, those who were taking care of him baptized him, assuming that he was going to die soon. His friend has a brief rally in his sickness and is coherent enough to talk to Augustine. Augustine relates the baptism in a joking way, assuming that his friend will laugh at the involuntary, unconscious baptism, and is surprised by his friend's response:<br />
<blockquote class="tr_bq"><i>He, however, had learnt beforehand of the baptism he had received, and shrank from me as if from an enemy. In a remarkable and sudden burst of plain speaking he warned me that if I wanted to be his friend, I would have to stop talking to him like that. For my part, I was astonished and upset at this, and put all my own feelings on one side until he had recovered and had regained the full vigour of health; then, I thought, I would be able to deal with him as I wished. But he was rescued from my madness, so that in you he might be reserved for my consolation; a few days later, when I was away, the fever struck again, and he died.</i> (pp 70, <i>Confessions</i> 4.3.8)</blockquote>This is intriguing because of the change brought about in his relationship because of the baptism. If baptism was taken so seriously, then it would have natural repercussions in the relationship that Augustine might have had with his friend and the friend's response may not be one merely of annoyance at being mocked, but the realization that the relationship would have to change.<br />
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That's speculation, but I think it's fair speculation. <br />
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The delaying of baptism, and Augustine's vow of celibacy once he decides to be baptized, may make more sense if we realize that for Augustine the Christian life was an all-or-nothing prospect on the issue of sex. He would have to completely avoid sex of all kinds in order to live in way that he considered faithful. Any sexual pleasure, even within the bonds of marriage, was something he couldn't handle in combination with his faith. All non-pro-creational sex was giving into lust in his eyes, and perhaps, knowing his own proclivities, it was easier to go "cold turkey".terrihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12399706958844399216noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33818852.post-13145953660619921512011-10-24T08:52:00.003-04:002011-10-24T08:55:30.793-04:00Let it Rip!That's the battle cry for playing <a href="http://www.beyblade.com/splash.aspx">BeyBlade</a>, a game of dueling, adjustable, spinning tops which are launched into plastic "stadiums".<br />
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This weekend we attended a local tournament at a nearby Toys-R-Us that The Intuitive found out about from the website. We weren't sure what to expect. The event didn't seem to be advertised anywhere else and, other than my son, we didn't know many kids who were obsessed with BeyBlade.<br />
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Apparently, they don't need to do much advertising these days. By the time the tournament started, there were about 60 kids, almost exclusively boys, crowding around tables with stadiums set up for battles. They writhed with energy and excitement, opening their overflowing plastic carrying cases and carefully examining their stock, thoughtfully choosing their instruments of war.<br />
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<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEggYIQKfcI1XxPTMsQx14dngBMijoAGrQn6OcZi1oRl8HiWW-0kYtH5AGAyaEj82rIUct10-tRE5O7yYmEaemgw-8ZP1rvpFprbZGmyvsa57aj9PUgegN7uwr0j2pZUInCMDRyB/s1600/IMG_3638.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEggYIQKfcI1XxPTMsQx14dngBMijoAGrQn6OcZi1oRl8HiWW-0kYtH5AGAyaEj82rIUct10-tRE5O7yYmEaemgw-8ZP1rvpFprbZGmyvsa57aj9PUgegN7uwr0j2pZUInCMDRyB/s320/IMG_3638.JPG" width="240" /></a></div>60 boys, from ages 5 to 13, managed to behave pretty well considering the first hour was informal chaos with boys introducing themselves to each other and seeking out battle partners. The Intuitive glowed with enthusiasm taking his losses well, but taking his wins with victorious joy.<br />
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Ultimately, he didn't make it too far in the tournament. His collection of 5 or 6 BeyBlades couldn't compete with the serious challengers who seemed to have at least 20.<br />
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He still managed to have a great time.terrihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12399706958844399216noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33818852.post-59171828013380618542011-10-21T09:51:00.011-04:002011-10-21T10:10:14.946-04:00Was Saint Augustine Bi-Sexual? Part 2The plot thickens.<br />
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Whenever something novel occurs to me about a text I am reading, novel enough to pique my interest, one of the first things that I do is try to see if anyone else has ever thought the same thing, or researched the idea. When I read <i>Gilgamesh</i>, I noticed certain images that reminded me of the book of Daniel. When I researched this further, I found that many people had already explored the connection and written obscure papers and books about the subject. It turns out my insight wasn't unique or incredibly insightful.<br />
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Oh Well.<br />
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The possibility of Augustine having had same-sex affairs was thought-provoking, in large part because the idea was totally unexpected. I had in my mind a rough sketch of Augustine's life and the purpose of <i>Confessions</i> through general exposure in my reading and miscellaneous passages which are frequently quoted, usually in theological discussions. I went into <i>Confessions</i> with pre-conceived ideas about what I was going to find. I decided to read it because it's one of those things that people use and refer to without actually having read the work, in full, for themselves.<br />
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So, what did I find out about this possible aspect of Augustine?<br />
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I discovered that very few people discussed this aspect of Augustine, or were even aware of the idea. I found a few GLBT sites which listed him as one of their own on the basis of some of the passages I have already quoted, but some of these sites also tended to have an agenda, trying to claim prominent Christians from the past as fellow homosexuals or bi-sexuals. It doesn't mean they are wrong, but it does taint their assertions with a self-serving motive.<br />
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One paper kept coming up as a reference in several books and articles; <i><a href="https://muse.jhu.edu/journals/journal_of_the_history_of_sexuality/summary/v011/11.4soble.html">Correcting Some Misconceptions about St. Augustine's Sex Life, by Alan Soble</a></i>. Although it was frequently showing up as a reference, I had a difficult time finding the actual text of the paper. It was listed in bibliographies and footnotes, but no one ever quoted it and every link I followed had only the abstract available to the public. Eventually, my husband got access to it through his university in order for me to read the entire article.<br />
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I was hoping for something more informative than what I got. The article goes into a lot of detail about what other historians and biographers of Augustine have said and even addresses the issue of the GLBT community trying to co-opt Augustine, something I had already come across. Ultimately, the author concludes that it is silly to think that Augustine engaged in same-sex relationships.<br />
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The author is wrong as far as his reasoning goes. His arguments rest on these points: that Augustine was an exaggerator, that Augustine expressed interest in women, and Augustine never clearly says that he has had same-sex relationships.<br />
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Claiming that Augustine was dramatic, and therefore we must take what he says about himself with a grain of salt, undermines any attempt at unearthing the truth from Augustine's own words. When Soble goes looking for evidence, he doesn't look for evidence in <i>Confessions</i>, he looks for evidence in what historians and biographers have said about Augustine and his sex life. This is a misstep. What do historians know about Augustine besides what he has said about himself in his own work? Ignoring the tone of <i>Confessions,</i> and going to second-hand interpretation from other authors will muddy the water on the issue rather than add clarity to it.<br />
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Soble acknowledges that some historians intimate that Augustine did have same-sex affairs, but he rejects these intimations out of hand. He believes that people are reading bi-sexuality into the text for their own reasons. I think Soble is reading Augustine's relatively chaste heterosexuality into the text. When Soble addresses the texts in question, he just baldly asserts that they refer to women. When Augustine talks about polluting friendships, Soble believes he's speaking about male-female friendship:<br />
<blockquote><i>First, Augustine was looking for and talking about love with a woman for he immediately says that success in his search soon came and he was probably referring to the pact he made with his mistress. Second, Augustine speaks in this sentence only of desire, not behavior. Augustine knew Matthew 5:28 well, according to which Jesus said,"But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart." Augustine's taking Matthew 5:28 seriously might very well explain his critical remark in Confessions 3.1 that he "polluted" friendship with sexual desire, for the point of Matthew 5:28 is that mere desire by itself, without sexual activity, is condemnable. (</i>pp 554 <a href="https://muse.jhu.edu/journals/journal_of_the_history_of_sexuality/toc/sex11.4.html">Journal of the History of Sexuality, Volume 11, Number 4, October 2002</a>)</blockquote>Soble's first contention is simply assertion and circularity. How does Augustine saying that he was successful in his search prove that he was looking of and talking about a woman? The text doesn't say that in any way. Soble connects what Augustine wrote to Augustine's mistress, but the information about Augustine's mistress comes much later in the text and isn't connected to Augustine's elaborate descriptions of his lust and pollution of friendship. What Soble says simply doesn't follow.<br />
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Sobles' second contention is just more of the same. There is no reason to assume that Augustine is speaking of desire and not actions. How could Augustine consider himself "successful" in obtaining love and consummating lust if he is only speaking of desire? Augustine makes it clear when he is talking about desires and when he is talking about actions. While he may be vague about the specifics of his actions, he is clear that there were actions.<br />
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Soble is inserting his own assumptions onto the text. Because Augustine declares that he was monogamous with his mistress, not knowing any other woman during his time with her over the course of 15 years, Soble assumes that means Augustine didn't have any other sexual relationships, which is not exactly what Augustine says. In fact, Augustine goes out of his way to say that he has not been with any other women, rather than saying that he has only had sexual relations with her. It may seem rather pedantic and persnickety to note this difference, but I think it is relevant to the context of Augustine's cultural surroundings. Same-sex relations were not viewed as unfaithfulness to wives and women. They existed in an entirely different class.<br />
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I have continued to read further into <i>Confessions</i>, wondering if I would come across material that would either strengthen or weaken my intuition about Augustine, and so far I haven't found much to change my leaning towards Augustine's having had same-sex affairs.<br />
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Augustine's attitude towards women was wholly utilitarian. Throughout <i>Confessions</i>, in the context of Augustine's lust, Augustine floats the possibility of marriage as a cure for his sexual wanderings. His parents don't want him to marry at a young age because they are trying to further his academic career and don't want him to be tied down, which is why his mother simply asks him not to commit adultery. They leave his libido unchecked rather than have him take on a wife as a "cure" for his sexual appetites.<br />
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At one point in <i>Confessions</i>, when Augustine is older and leaning more towards conversion, he considers the benefits of finding a woman with money to marry as a way to advance his career, there is no mention of love or companionship. When he considers creating a co-op with his closest male friends and colleagues, living together and sharing everything in common, the fly in the ointment is that several of his group have wives and this will ruin it:<br />
<blockquote><i>6.14.24..But when we began to consider whether this life would be possible if our womenfolk were present (some of us already being married, and others, myself included, hoping to be), all our noble plans fell to pieces in our hands, and lay utterly shattered on the ground.</i> (pp 129)</blockquote>Just after this section Augustine refers to his mistress as his <i>familiar bedfellow</i>, certainly not a term of love or tenderness or friendship or any of the emotional connectedness that he relates with his male friends:<br />
<blockquote><i>6.12.25...My familiar bedfellow was torn from my side as being an impediment to marriage; and my heart, to which she had fixed herself, was torn and wounded, and left a trail of blood. She returned to Africa, vowing to you that she would never know another man, and leaving behind the natural son she had borne me. But in my misery I could not even imitate her, a woman; although after two years I was to receive in marriage the girl for whom I had made my suit, and, being not a lover of marriage but a slave of lust, I got myself another--and not a wife--so as to maintain my soul's sickness as it was, or if possible to make it worse, and convey it, with an escort of enduring habit, into the realm of matrimony. Nor did I find any healing for the wound caused by the severance from my previous partner, but after the inflammation and the grievous pain, gangrene set in; it was as if the wound were numbed, but it was even more incredibly painful. (</i>pp 130<i>)</i></blockquote>And, that's it. Notice how Augustine says that she had attached herself to his heart, placing the attachment under her power, not his. Also note his little jab that he couldn't do something that a woman could do. While he is certainly pained to see her go, he doesn't say much about his love for her and in fact never uses the word love in relation to her. He was also willing to dismiss her for the utilitarian marriage being secured for him. This is not a man losing the love of his life. This is a man losing access to a regular sexual partner who has become a part of his life through habit and no more.<br />
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Augustine was heartless when it came to her. There was no prestige or advancement to be made in marrying her. He lost her because she wasn't useful to him in his academic, financial, or social life, and the loss he feels for her is not rooted in his love of her.<br />
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<i>I'll continue more of this discussion later......</i>terrihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12399706958844399216noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33818852.post-87689422869949822952011-10-20T11:24:00.010-04:002011-10-26T09:54:36.236-04:00Was Saint Augustine Bi-Sexual?I've continued reading <i>The Confessions</i>, by Saint Augustine, and part of the way through the first few "books" I began to wonder whether Augustine's references to lust and sin and giving in to low vices included a homosexual, or bi-sexual, element to them. He talks about an incident at a public bath that made his father recognize that he is coming of age sexually, but there is no mention of a girl or woman, or even much in the way of remonstrances about his sexual activities from his Christian mother other than a warning to not commit adultery. His social life seems to revolve around his boyhood friendships and the idea that being with this social group has induced him to sin in ways which he wouldn't have sinned individually.<br />
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From the beginning Augustine writes:<br />
<blockquote><i>2.2.2 And what pleasure did I know except loving and being loved? But <b>my love did not keep within the bounds marked out by the shining border of friendship</b>, the affection of one mind for another. </i>(pp 31)</blockquote>He describes moving to Carthage and its effect on him :<br />
<blockquote><i>3.1.1 I came to Carthage and a frying pan of sinful loves was spitting all about me. I was not yet in love, but I was in love with love; such was my inner need that I hated myself for not being more in need. </i><i><br />
</i><i>...Loving and being loved was sweeter to me if I could also enjoy my lover's body. <b>So it was that I defiled the well of friendship with the filth of concupiscence</b>, and clouded its clear light with the infernal fog of lust; crude and boorish as I was, my vanity was so excessive that I longed to be smart and sophisticated. I rushed headlong into love, seeking to be swallowed up in it. O God ever merciful to me(Ps. 59.19 [Ps. 58.18]), what gall you in your goodness smeared over my sophisticated pleasures; for I was loved in return, and came secretly to know the chains of carnal enjoyment.</i>(pp 45)</blockquote>So far, Augustine has only used the word friendship in relation to his male peers. There is no indication that he had female friends, in which case is he defiling his male friendships with lust and sexual longing? Other than his mother, Augustine hasn't described any relationship with a woman in detail, or with the loving language he uses for his male peers.<br />
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Further on, he describes the death of a close, male friend in devastating terms, describing how inconsolable he was, how he had lost half of his soul and loved him as an immortal. The language he uses is very flowery and emotional and romantic.<br />
<blockquote><i>I was astonished that other mortals lived, since he, whom I had loved as if he were immortal, was dead, and even more astonished that though he was dead, I, his other self, lived. He spoke rightly who said that his friend was "half his soul". I felt that my soul and my friend's were one soul in two bodies, and life filled me with horror as I had no wish to live on, a mere half of myself. Perhaps, too, I dreaded death for this same reason, fearing that he whom I had loved so much would die utterly.</i> (pp 71-72, Book 4.6.11)</blockquote>And later on, when analyzing the response to the loss of friendship and camaraderie when someone dies, he writes:<br />
<blockquote><i>These and other such tokens, which proceed from the hearts of those who love each other and express themselves in the face, the speech, the eyes, and a thousand gestures of good will, are, so to speak, the kindling of the fire which melds minds together, making one out of many.</i> </blockquote><blockquote><i>4.9.14 This is what we cherish in our friends, to the extent that a man's conscience feels guilty, if he does not love one who loves him in return, or love in return one who loves him, seeking nothing from his lover's body except these tokens of good will.</i>(pp.73)</blockquote>The use of the word <i>lover</i> in the midst of a treatise on close friendship jumps out at me. It seems very odd that so far in my reading of Augustine he's written less then a paragraph about his 15 year relationship with a woman, in terms of his sinful life, and yet carries on about the close friendships he has had for pages. He does mention lusting after women at one point, but even that is a cursory statement, buried in a list of the general misguidedness he felt ruled his life at that point in time.<br />
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It could be that I am simply misreading Augustine. Women weren't seen as emotional and intellectual equals in Roman times. Maybe the closeness with which Augustine described his friendships is simply typical for his culture. On the other hand, homosexuality and <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pederasty">pederasty</a> weren't unknown in Roman culture.<br />
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When I first started to wonder if other people had explored this part of Augustine, I came across the Wikipedia page<a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/History_of_Christianity_and_homosexuality"> here</a>, which had a quote from Plutarch about homosexuality, specifically being the passive partner:<br />
<blockquote><i>"we regard men who take pleasure in passive submission as practicing the lowest kind of vice."</i></blockquote>This set off a bell in my head, because when Augustine first begins elaborating on his sinfulness in <i>The Confessions</i>, he mentions the low forms of vice in which he engaged.<br />
<blockquote><i>More than once in my youth I burnt to satisfy myself with the lowest things; with reckless daring I ran wild, overgrown and overshadowed by my various loves. And all the time I pleased myself and sought to be pleasing in the sight of men, my beauty wasted away and I was foul(Dan. 10.8) in your sight</i></blockquote><a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Plutarch">Plutarch</a>, a biographer of many prominent Greeks and Romans, had written about <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cicero">Cicero</a>, the person whose work Augustine credits for the beginning of his spiritual turnaround.<br />
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Coincidence?<br />
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Possibly.<br />
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Augustine was fully immersed in rhetoric, literature and philosophy and would have been exposed to a great many ideas and people which were all connected through the "canon" of his studies. The similarity in language may not mean anything. On the other hand, because Augustine places such an emphasis on Cicero, it isn't a stretch to imagine that Augustine would have read Plutarch's biography and other works and been influenced by what he had to say.<br />
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It's hard to judge with Augustine. He is frequently overly dramatic when describing any type of sin and knowing whether he really means it when he says he participated in the "lowest things", or if he is exaggerating for effect is difficult to sort out.terrihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12399706958844399216noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33818852.post-18771145343643428662011-10-19T08:07:00.000-04:002011-10-19T08:07:35.262-04:00QOTD<div style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="border-collapse: collapse;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #351c75; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;">"A banker is a fellow who lends you his umbrella when the sun is shining, but wants it back the minute it begins to rain."</span></span></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="border-collapse: collapse;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #351c75; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;">-Mark Twain</span></span></div>terrihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12399706958844399216noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33818852.post-6556214065151072982011-10-14T13:34:00.004-04:002011-10-14T16:53:40.525-04:009-9-9 ExampleMy mind was thinking more about Cain's plan, so I threw together this rough example from the statistics provided by the <a href="http://www.bls.gov/cex/tables.htm">Consumer Expenditure Survey</a>.<br />
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<a href="ftp://ftp.bls.gov/pub/special.requests/ce/share/2010/cucomp.txt">Assume a family of four with an annual income before taxes of $94,807 </a>and the after tax income of $92,147. That's about a 3% tax of their gross income. Under a flat 9% their after taxes income would be $86,274. They would pay $8,532 in annual income tax. That's 3 times what they currently pay.<br />
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The average annual expenditures for this group is listed as $69,536.<br />
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Removing non-taxble expenditures for housing, food, utilities, and the cost of health insurance, etc.....which account for over 70% of the listed expenditures, that leaves about 30% of expenditures on things which would be subject to sales tax.<br />
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30% of $69,536 is about $20,860. 9% sales tax on those expenditures would be $1877 annually.<br />
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That is over and above the normal state sales taxes that everyone pays.<br />
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This particular family would be paying the federal government $10,409 in one year. <br />
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Under Cain's plan, this family would be paying $7,749 more than it currently does.<br />
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Cain's plan not only would hurt the lower and middle classes, it would hurt the upper classes even more.<br />
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<a href="ftp://ftp.bls.gov/pub/special.requests/ce/aggregate/2010/income.txt">Over 31%, and the top 31%, of the "consumer units"</a> fall into the $70,000 and above income level, with the average(or mean?) income listed as $129,151. These households also make up to 52.4% of the annual aggregate expenditures for the country. A 9% sales tax would hit these more wealthy people as hard as it would the middle and lower classes because of their higher consumption of goods. Maybe they wouldn't feel it quite as hard as a family living on $40,000 would, but that is all relative.<br />
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Viewed in this way, Cain's plan is actually a disproportionate tax on "the rich" and all those "job-creators" Republicans keep trying to protect.<br />
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It's an awful, awful plan. Going over these numbers convinces me that Cain has no clue about how taxes work or the actual breakdown of how his plan would affect the country.<br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: red;">Update</span>:<br />
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Here are a few articles that touch on the same things I've been posting about.<br />
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<a href="http://www.spokesman.com/stories/2011/oct/13/critics-contend-cains-9-9-9-plan-will-hurt-the/">http://www.spokesman.com/stories/2011/oct/13/critics-contend-cains-9-9-9-plan-will-hurt-the/</a><br />
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<a href="http://www.washingtonpost.com/blogs/election-2012/post/herman-cain-lashes-out-at-9-9-9-critics/2011/10/14/gIQA0aZPkL_blog.html">http://www.washingtonpost.com/blogs/election-2012/post/herman-cain-lashes-out-at-9-9-9-critics/2011/10/14/gIQA0aZPkL_blog.html</a><br />
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<a href="http://www.tampabay.com/news/business/business-groups-blast-cains-9-9-9-plan-as-job-killer/1196763">http://www.tampabay.com/news/business/business-groups-blast-cains-9-9-9-plan-as-job-killer/1196763</a><br />
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P.S. <i> I swear that I hadn't come across any of these things until after my posts. Most of these articles(there are more I didn't list) came out today or the day before. Things like that always make me wonder if there is some sort of meta-cognition process at work in the world. ;-)</i>terrihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12399706958844399216noreply@blogger.com11