tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33818852.post2907036992869434736..comments2023-10-21T23:57:46.155-04:00Comments on Wheat Among Tares: Bringing My Work Home With Meterrihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12399706958844399216noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33818852.post-56792221997266531552011-02-22T17:34:39.346-05:002011-02-22T17:34:39.346-05:00Middle school. Your child's best defense is a...Middle school. Your child's best defense is a circle of friends. It discourages bullies, often more psychologically than physically; it provides a social foundation from which any teasing or even bullying can be endured as something temporary rather than one's lot in life; it provides places of solace if something uncomfortable does happen. Having an older friend or two wouldn't hurt.<br /><br />Incidentally, the question "What is your name?" When confronting a bully can sometimes be remarkably effective. And with the coach, the benefit of hindsight would suggest "One of the boys on the team has been swearing at my son."<br /><br />It's painful to watch, isn't it?Assistant Village Idiothttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01978011985085795099noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33818852.post-51575283627384994392011-02-13T07:45:00.340-05:002011-02-13T07:45:00.340-05:00atimetorend
Thanks for the encouragement!atimetorend<br /><br />Thanks for the encouragement!terrihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12399706958844399216noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33818852.post-58674557063391526722011-02-11T10:53:31.285-05:002011-02-11T10:53:31.285-05:00Also, you're being an example of a parent doin...Also, you're being an example of a parent doing the right thing, both for the parents whose kids were being picked on and the parents of the instigators. That can make a big difference. And for other parents reading your post (like me!), who might be more likely to intervene when necessary.<br /><br />You're right, it can be very discouraging, it's a tough world we live in.atimetorendhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10563649474540441597noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33818852.post-48574539060267996922011-02-10T16:55:10.019-05:002011-02-10T16:55:10.019-05:00I know it's not fair, and I wish you didn'...I know it's not fair, and I wish you didn't have to put yourself in those situations, but I am very glad that you did - both for our kids and the other kids. I wrestled with a similar angst at last week's soccer game when parents from the opposing team ridiculed our son's team not too quietly. The only thing that kept me from jumping in was that they were out of ear shot of any of the kids. Their obnoxiousness and rudeness was only affecting me, and yet afterwards a part of me still wished I had spoken up and felt that having not done so, I had failed to protect my kid's dignity and honor (even though he doesn't know and never will know what was said).DHnoreply@blogger.com